Toi Et Moi Engagement Rings: Diamond Pairings Worth Considering

Sometimes you don’t want a big centrepiece diamond for your engagement ring and instead you want two stones to represent your relationship better.

Toi et moi engagement rings come from the French words meaning ‘you and me’. This represents the two people who are now together and each stone is for an individual.

What makes these rings unique is that the two stones can be completely different and don’t have to match. For example, you can have an oval and a pear shaped stone. This can make your ring feel very personal.

What Makes Toi Et Moi Engagement Rings Unique?

Traditional solitaire rings will have a single stone as the centre piece.

However, toi et moi rings will share the focus between the two stones.

This ring has a long history as Napoleon Bonaparte gifted his wife Joséphine de Beauharnais a two stone ring with a diamond and sapphire in 1796. Whilst the rings today are very different the idea of having two gemstones still appeals.

Now you can have matching round stones or contrasting fancy shapes. Some designs are symmetrical and balanced, whilst others will have one stone higher or at an angle.

Choosing Diamond Shapes

How the two stones relate to each other will be more important than choosing the largest diamonds.

Oval & Pear

This is a popular choice as the two stones have a nice contrast. The pear is a pointy shape whereas the oval is a rounded shape which can make the design look more flowing.

Emerald & Round

The clean straight lines of an emerald cut paired with the sparkle of a round brilliant makes it ideal for those who like a modern yet classic design.

Pear & Pear

Placing the points in opposite directions can create an unique design. You can also have small differences in size to give some personality.

Rather than looking at the individual stones, look at how they look together. Two beautiful stones may not look great together.

Why Lab Grown Diamonds Are Ideal For Two Stone Rings

When buying two stones the overall cost can be an important thing to consider.

This is why many couples look into lab grown diamonds for their toi et moi rings. They have the same chemical composition, crystal structure and optical properties as mined diamonds however the source is different.

Typically they will be cheaper than natural diamonds. This means you can consider different sizes or higher colour/clarity grades.

If you were going to buy one diamond originally you may find that buying a two stone design is more affordable when purchasing lab grown diamonds.

Novita Diamonds are a great place to start when looking into lab grown diamond jewellery.

However, you should also consider the quality of the cut, the proportions of the stones, the certification and strength of the setting.

Setting

As the two stones will be placed close together you need to ensure there is a good setting to hold them in place.

Using a prong setting will give more of the stone showing however the number of prongs will depend on the shape of the stones.

A bezel setting will surround the gemstone with a metal border. This will protect the sharp edges of the stone but won’t look as delicate as the prong setting.

You should also consider the width of the band. The band may look nice in photos if very slim however needs to be strong enough to hold up the weight of the two stones.

Consider how sharp the points of the diamonds are and how high the setting is if wearing everyday.

Should They Match In Size?

Not necessarily.

Having matching stones will give a balanced design. If the stones are similar shapes then this will work well. However, having two different sized stones can create a more unique design.

It is important to have a balanced design.

A small round stone may look nice next to a larger pear shape. However, two stones with the same carat weight may look very different. Carat measures the weight of the diamond, not how big it will look.

Instead look at the measurements in millimetres.

When looking at Novita Diamonds or another trusted jeweller look at how they will look when set.

Metal

Having a yellow gold band will give your two stone ring a warm feel. This works well with long shaped diamonds.

White gold and platinum will give a cooler look which works well with colourless diamonds. Rose gold will give a softer pink look.

There is no one metal that will work with all toi et moi designs. Consider your skin tone, current jewellery, personal preferences and how easy it will be to care for.

Also think about your future wedding band. Some two stone settings have an uneven shape meaning a straight band may leave a gap.

A curved or bespoke band may be needed.

Things To Consider When Buying Toi Et Moi Engagement Rings

Whilst the ring may look perfectly balanced in photos, there are a few things to consider. Ask about the diamond grading reports, how high the setting is, how wide the band is and if it can be resized. If you are buying lab grown diamonds then asking about the independent grading report from a reputable lab (IGI/GIA) can help you know important features.

Also ask about the returns policy, warranty and if there are any bespoke terms.

Looking through Novita Diamonds collection will help you decide what type of diamonds you want. However, you should choose based on how you will wear the ring and what feels comfortable.

Ultimately the toi et moi ring should make the two stones feel connected but still have their own personality. This will make the design timeless.